Piecing - H still contacts OW

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lin, thank you again for putting things into perspective. h did say he hope "she will find someone else and live happily ever after" (so he can lessen his guilt, I guess). FWIW, it was her brother who passed away, not husband, which is why my h filled the void so easily. OW was attached to the brother (she was divorced) and so she easily attached herself to my h.
It's funny about the ILY which I read on this board. Many said they want the h's ILY. In my situation, h readily says ILY but I actually don't want it at this point. When he was with OW, he also said ILY and I said, "there is a second part which you omitted." and he said, "yes, IL her also". So this sucks now because he is saying lots of ILY, but I know that it's the same feeling for her. I am not sure I want "ILY" or not. May be next year he will say, "ILY, one and only" then I will be happy.

Time to get that STOP sign. thanks.