UD, no advice here. I do have empathy for you. I am also piecing and I am lucky that my h is actually trying (except for certain things). However, I also feel lots of anger and resentment which I think was suppressed before. Now they are resurfacing. I have a difficult time controlling myself. I am spending lots more time with h, which reduces my alone time and time with friends. I think for me I need to get out more to GAL. I agree with CL that you can try to do other things more, first to get away from thinking about R, and also get more topics (hopefully interesting ones) to talk with h when you are together. good luck
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?