Piecing - H still contacts OW

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He did tell me he feels like i a punishing him. one thing I really need to stop is being sarcastic. That really shuts him off. And right now it does not help because even innocent comments were taken as sarcastic by him.
We did have an open and honest talk last night. Nothing new really just rehash of how he is feeling unwelcome at home yet he is scared of me leaving, and that I am suspicious of everything. I will admit here :-) that I am doing pretty bad lately in DB. I am pushing a lot and alternating between being very nice, and being quite nasty to him. I have major problem with doing the STOP sign part. I think all the suppressed anger and resentment are all coming out.
HB, a big THANK YOU for your very good advice. I will need to watch it when he talks about OW. He is already very reluctant about this subject because he feels that it's over and we should move on. For me, however, I am the type who needs to know all the details before I can move on. He is letting it out slowly but I have to make sure I do not shut him down with my sarcastic/nasty words. THANKS!