You say you are impatient, well I was too and it got me no where. I have learned that patience is the key to surviving with out losing who you are.
The lack of control over the situation and them was a huge part of my problem. We need to let them do what they need to do and give them space. Detach is what everyone says to do. That is the hardest thing harder than having patience.
Detaching takes time it does not happen overnight.
Mine also said he was not happy in the M. This is a standard phrase for most of them. He doesn't have to dress different or buy a sports car to be in mlc. Mine did not buy anything that I know of??? but does spend money to catch up on all he did not do for the last 23 yrs.... see he put work first before the kids and I. We rarely saw him and never took vacations. Now this is all my fault and he is spending to make up for it.
You said he needs to be satisfied with himself. This is very important for if he is not then he will not see past that. read and read is all I can recommend to you. Learn about MLC but about how to improve you and your life. You are part of this M and if you are not happy your life with him can not be happy. He can't make you happy that has to come from within you.
It has been a yr and the anger is no longer with me. I had a very short period of anger and some say I did not get angry enough at him. Funny he says he left because I was always angry.
Let go of thinking about him all the time. This is very hard at first and there are times that he will consume your thoughts. Even after a yr. I have weekends like this one that are being consumed by where did he go and why did he crawl back in the tunnel this time? Keep busy and in the MLC mind there is no sense of time. So things will happen when they happen. hb2
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
