I need to detach better. After a really good weekend, we end up having a relationship conversation. Where she needs to tell me how frustrated she is in our current living situation. She just feels like I am stubborn and won't give up, and she needs to move on. She doesn't want to be in our relationship anymore. I don't even know where that came from. Maybe its the fact that we spent a lot of time together the last 2 days. Is it possible that she is more confused than she lets on? She sure as hell sounds like she knows what she wants, and thats out. She wants to figure out how she can go buy her house. She wants to figure out a parenting plan. Basically she is talking divorce. And the only real reason i can hear from her is that she thinks she will be happier 'alone', and that the kids will be happier if she is happy, because she can be a better mom if she doesn't feel trapped.
My heart wants to pull her close to me, tell her I love her, and that i always have loved her. I want to kick myself. I need to stop telling her I love her. Can someone please kick me.
Damn someone kick me. Everytime I have positives in our relationship, I end up messing up. And she ends up pushing back hard. I need to give her space right now. I just don't know how. The problem is giving her space means watching her go into the arms of the OM.
I don't know what to do, I guess she sees the OM as perfect for her, and there is nothing I can do about that. Right now she is not seeing him "until she moves out", which looks like it could take months. So no matter how much I change, I don't feel like it matters, she can't see it right now, or she can see it, it just doesn't matter. She is completely empty to me.
Is it possible for someone to be completely empty to someone they were married to for 7 years?
