Thank you for your clarification. I don't think that I truly understood the term 'detach'. I am really trying to detach myself from the emotions, but it is incredibly difficult. I know that there will be good days and bad days, and yesterday was a really good day and now today was a good day until we were playing Trivial Pursuit and having a glass of wine when he took off his wedding band. I knew he was doing it to test me to see if I would get angry with him, but I was really good and didn't say a word. Now I'm awake and he's sleeping and his ring is sitting in front of me on the coffee table.
I know it is not safe to assume, but does anyone else think this is just a test? He wants to see my reaction? I'm trying to follow the 'Last Resort' rules and pretend as if I'm beyond it and it's not going to bother me anymore. This is very difficult, but I'm trying to remain positive and realize that he has a lot going on that I can't understand and if we were once in love, which he claims that his feelings for me haven't changed and he still loves me, then I want us to remain friends. I love the advice of not giving up even after the paperwork is signed.
Thank you so much for your feedback....just knowing that I'm not going through this alone is so helpful. Just when I feel like nobody would understand what is going on with us, I have all of you and I'm very grateful.
