W is nuts, and I need to detach......

[~Sol]

Also wanted to add that my W keeps looking at my requests about going to therapy, anger mgt, no contact with OP, which I emailed her also. She is still quiet and has not responded to the requests - all I got was that she can't stand me and that I deprive her life.

I have not pushed the issue anymore - she knows I want to work on the M, perhaps it's MY way, and maybe she has HER way of "working" on it.....but I STRONGLY beleive that we need to get our issues out to a professional - or we will REPEAT the same mistakes as before, she will NOT be happy, she NEEDS to get her DEPRESSION in check....etc, etc..

I have never been more clear about what I want out of this R/M with her now that I have a better understanding of the "whole picture".

Is there another way to get to the issues at hand? My M is still broken, and no amount of one-sided sex, being nice, or vacations is going to fix this.

If it IS all about HER.....then she needs to go see her doctor and a therapist. I offer, she rejects.