I am loving the discussion here! I'm really not a trouble maker, perhaps some see me as that, I'm just merely someone with a different point of view. First, AMYC, I admire your spirit, its what makes you what you are! I'm curious about the bikini you are talking about wearing, is it a whip cream bikini, or a cloth one? LOL Be carefull of teasing us sex starved divorced men about wearing bikinis!! Back to more serious discussions, I love the different points of view! One of the things that I do about myself is keep an open mind about all things, just because I have a certain point of view or particular stance on a subject doesn't mean I won't hear someone else'e opinions or change my views if proven wrong, I also admit when I am wrong. With that being said, RCR, you bring up some interesting points regarding statistics. Yes, I agree with you in several areas, first, stats can be skewed, yes stats can be misleading, yes, the vast majority of divorces do not have to happen. I agree wholeheartedly with all of that. Unfortunately, divorces that don't need to happen do happen. Why do they happen? Different reasons of course! LOL Most of which I feel are based on one spouses desire for something more or better. Do they find it? Stats say NO, they do not. How do I know this? Simple, more second marriages fail than first ones. Also, women in their late 30's and above are more likely to NOT get remarried. Why is that you ask? Men who are older are more likely to try to find someone younger. Why is that do you ask? Well, I don't have the stats on that, but I feel its because older men percieve younger women are more exciting and it makes them feel better about themseleves. Ladies, I DON'T SHARE THAT POINT OF VIEW!! Please don't kill me for saying that! I am only offering my perception on things. Do all men feel that way? Absolutely not!! I am one who doesn't!!! I also know there is a growing trend for younger men to be attracted to older women, particularly 30 something women, however, it doesn't seem as though those relationships are very long term, I don;t have any real numbers on it, just what I am percieving. So, with all of this being said and with all of this scientific data LOL, Why do people get divorced knowing that the next relationship will more likely fail than getting into a first one, plus, bringing problems into the next relationship from the last one? I have a theory on that as well.... People are fasinated with the great big WHAT IF! WHAT IF this is the miracle person I have been waiting for all my life!!! WHAT IF I can have it all!!! WHAT IF this is the fairy tale romance!!! WHAT IF is a POWERFULL pull!!! Also, I truly believe our society has become so tolerant of poor behavior and character that many people have no shame anymore of most things they do. I believe than in the USA the only crimes that will get you shunned by the public are murder, child molestation, and rape. Besides that, people, for the most part have a mild reaction to the actions and behaviors of others. In my humble opinion, that is why it is easy for people today to walk off and leave thier families, abandon children, and make a complete and totall ASS of themselves. I do realize there are some issues still unresolved from childhood that trigger this and keep it going, but really, our society for the most part doesn't hold people accountable for their actions, thus it makes it much easier for people to behave as they do. A little more anaylsis from me, and I guess a little more fuel for the fire!
