MLC thoughts and observations

[bright 2 morro]

I was not saying that it is always marital issues that bring this on. I was simply stating that I feel that there could be other reasons than MLC. I thought we had a great marriage but I as I look back I see some minor things that came to grate on us and we never did anything. I am not sure if it is a result of the anger phase and me getting frustrated feeding into the arguements. But I do know that we did have some issues that could have been worked on before.

Even before this happened I thought he felt the same. Especially because of an email that I just found from him. This email was from 2 days before he "snapped"(his word).

I have to say that I read all of the literature on Mid life crisis on this site. I could swear that he fits the bill. I just to not know if I should label him as this without knowing for sure. I do not want to find excuses for his behavior. Which at first when I found this information I thought I had found my answers. I believe that he is confused and not sure of what he wants. But I am not sure why?

Again, I am not saying that it is not MLC. I am just unsure. I am trying to figure out if I should sit by and wait and hope or if I should move on. I need a resolution. But I want to make sure of the real resolution. I know that you all are going to say that I can not expect that.

We are going to start Family therapy next week (my H and I). At least he is willing to go to that. He also seemed somewhat receptive to the conversation we had today. I know I can not make him come back, but I do know that I can make him think about things.

I did not mean to diminish anybodys idea of MLC because I am still using it as a possibility.

mimi