I think MANY of us were kind of caught by surprise when once our S's seemed willing to work on things, OUR issues started to resurface, along with some resentments.
Okay, so it is "normal" for me to start to feel resentments.
I want to deal with (and let go of) these feelings in a constructive way so I don't lash out at my H
I am now feeling resentment due to my H's seemingly minimal effort to piece.
UD, I'm glad you were able to find a quote that normalized your thoughts/feelings for you.
I'm going to disagree with your comment that you're feeling resentment because of your H's seemingly minimal effort to piece. Take another look at that statement and look inward. Can you come-up with an explanation for the sources of your resentment without assigning blame? If you have to look outside for the causes of your thoughts/feelings, you're avoiding looking inward because it's too painful for you.
I recommend "Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart." by John Welwood. I recommend it for someone who is struggling with letting go of anger and resentment in their R.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
