Thanks CL. I guess what I am feeling is valid and normal. I was just rereading some of the info on the Tips for Newcomers to Piecing BB. I found this quote and think it may apply.
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I think MANY of us were kind of caught by surprise when once our S's seemed willing to work on things, OUR issues started to resurface, along with some resentments.
Okay, so it is "normal" for me to start to feel resentments. I want to deal with (and let go of) these feelings in a constructive way so I don't lash out at my H...I guess that is one of the reasons I am here on this BB, hoping that my journalizing and your feedback will help me through a lot of this. Now that the temporary high of my H telling me he wants to make baby steps to R is over, I am now feeling resentment due to my H's seemingly minimal effort to piece. I tell myself that he wants to take baby steps and at least he is making some effort but I just keep feeling like I am in the same place I was when he left 3 months ago. I can't help but ask myself does he really want to work on things or this his way of just stalling for more time? Am I just supposed to accept his minimal efforts because I know if I confront him on this, I will just be pushing him in the opposite direction? Do I just need to be more patient?
