HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Holly06]

Lisa,
when you moved to piecing, it did seem a little too fast and "clean" to me. I was happy for you, but there seemed to be something missing from his recovery. Remember the A is just a symptom of the problem, and although it is the most hurtful to us, it is not the journey they are on. I don't like to see LBS confuse this issue. I don't think you do, but for some reason, H pulled himself out of MLC early, and he HAD to go back in. It is not about you or the kids. It is about his survival, his quest to become whole.
He did not finish the journey the first time. Both of you are responsible for this happening. He did not do the work that he needed to do to find his spiritual self. He did not have the courage or trust in himself when he came back to you the first time. He was using your as bandaid #2.
So not he must complete the journey. Yes, he will go back to being all the horrible things he was, and he will add to it.
You get to decide if you will continue to be there for him, move on, or leave a light on for him. It can be about you due to his choices.
But by closing the door, you are leaving H out in the dark with regrets for the rest of his life.
No one blames you. No one wants to make this choice for you. I just want you to be aware that this is only over if you want it to be over. Very empowering.
Hope this helps, and gives you strenght to do what you need to do.
Holly