UD, All your thoughts and feeling are valid. It is valid to want your H to treat you like a partner. It is valid to want your H to partner with you on the financial issues. It is valid to want a H who will be a partner with you in the M. It is valid to wonder if things will improve.
The difficulty is to contain these thoughts and feelings so that they don't influence the R in a negative way. In their raw state, it can be toxic to a R. It's our responsibility to express them in a healthy way, become aware of what's going on inside our heads, and transform them into something healthier and less egocentric.
Make sure that your DB and life skill efforts include cultivating the skills of acceptance, letting-go of what is beyond our control, and unconditional love.
Holding onto anger and resentment is a reflection on you, not your H's actions.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
