Save the note...at some point you might want to share that with H...I know there things that my S said that I did share with my H and in time it really shook him as to what he was doing...yes he would always love his children and yes they would always love their dad but did he just want love?...or did he want to be valued, respected, admired, looked up to???...eventually they start thinking about other relationships that are bonded to the M...there are in-laws, friends, children...giving up the marriage sometimes means losing out on all the "good" stuff that goes with it... In time your H should read what HIS D has to say about her mother...HIS W...this puts you in a whole different light from where he is seeing you...thus giving him a different persepctive then his own (warped) one...and sometimes they start thinking and realizing that maybe...just maybe....they missed something...
Your D sounds like a real gem...I know my D helped me so much when things were bad...she was barely 18 when H left and she spoke to me like a 40 yr. old...I was amazed at her wisdom...she was the closest to her dad...daddy's little girl...she was also the last to accept him back...he had to work to earn her attention and he is still having to work to earn the respect back...she was not an easy win like the other two who were more forgiving...he is having to work for her...and I love it!
