Thanks for the thoughtful reply. I guess I have just seen the same thing in my situation. I go on a rant, more to get it out of myself than to make any serious points, and some people have jumped on particular points I have made. I can certainly understand wanting to point out a flaw in thinking, I'm a professor afterall. But one lesson I have learned from others on this board, and from my C, is that being more validating when talking to someone, and not just problem solving, can lead to a more productive dialogue. I realize how bad I was in the past when my W would come whine at me about something, and I would respond with what I thought was a concise, simple way to solve the problem. That was not what she wanted. I have found that if I say "I'm really sorry you had to go through that" then she is happier, and will ask me for help deciding what to do if she wants.
I'm sure I'm not telling you anything you don't already know.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
