The BIG difference between my H and your FIL is that my H had absolutely no intention of ever leaving me for the OW. His past longterm relationships with women have been solely for sexual use and nothing more. He did not have any other type of relationship with them other than sex. The female "friends" that he did have, he had no sexual relationship with. Women have always played one role or the other in his life, not both. That was until I came along and that is where he started to really have the problems because he had no idea whatsoever as to how to blend the two.
As weird as that sounds to a lot of people, including myself, the M/W complex fits him to a "T" and therefore, a lot of the DB techniques that work for so many on these boards does not work for men like mine and GEL's
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
