and never felt the same sense of security in his mother's love as before.
IMO, it's would do worse than make your wife feel insecure. It would make her feel like you're such a wimp that not only would you hand over your lunch money to another guy, you would ask her to hand over her lunch money too.
In future, I'll just leave the metaphor to you. As usual, you express it much better than I ever could!
