Madonna/Whore Part 3

[Heywyre]

I appreciate your honesty SG but my H has never been one to "better me up" - what you see, is what you get pretty much.

Ever since he saw her ... or ever since you started to put your foot down with regards to the cell phone? The two events happened in exactly the same time-frame.

He saw her almost 6 weeks ago, the cell bill incident was 2 weeks ago.

The emotion comes not from the connection with the OW but more with the kids. Any of the relationship he has had, where there were kids involved, were the hardest ones on him. His first wife and him had two kids and they divorced when they were 1 and 5 years old. It was devastating to him and he has dealt with guilt ever since. It is a long story but his X got remarried shortly after their divorce and my H tried to stay out of their lives because he thought it was best, and that's what his X wanted, so the kids could have a "new father". He continued to pay support but was really screwed up, did a lot of drugs and didn't see them as much as he should have. He regrets it now, of course, but now doesn't do much good does it? Since we have been together, he has been rebuilding his relationship with his kids and it is somewhat ok - not the best, but better than nothing. He has always had a soft spot for little kids, most likely associated with the guilt aspect of his own life and has always, as long as we have been together, given money and his heart to them.

It might sound like I am defending him, and to some degree perhaps I am. But I am also not blind to what has happened in our lives and what might still possibly happen down the road. If it happens again, you can tell me "I told you so" and I won't take offence. But, right now, is not the time for me to walk away