Sex is like dancing. When we went to Salsa classes for a while this became more and more obvious to me. The ideal male dancing partner is a partner who can lead. The man has to know what he's doing and have the confidence and be into enough to shape what is happening. Are we dancing double time, or single? Are we being showy or are we just dancing because we like the music, or because we are into each other. The guy dictates what is going on - the good female dancer goes with the flow but adds her own special something. She adds flair to outline the man has given her. One of the things the dance teacher showed us was how the man gives the woman space to do her stuff and show off her moves. Good sex should be exactly like this.
Oh, I agree. It's not even like it's an analogy. Dancing is just vertical sex with your clothes on. Besides the fact that I was a little weirded out by having to in a sense "give permission" for the dance to begin, both HD guys I dated recently CLEARLY took the lead right away after that (which is part of the reason I label them HD or at least normal drive) and actually in both situations the move was a standard dance move. One guy did "hand to small of back" (to which my reaction was "very, very nice")and the other did "lift and smush" (to which my reaction was "Wow! Yum." because you don't get the "lift" too often when you're 5'9" and not exactly Twiggy.)
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
