Madonna/Whore Part 3

[Heywyre]

Thank you SOOOOOOO much, all of you for your input, support and opinions - I truly appreciate ALL of them.

I am still not totally decided at this point as to what to do because I am still a little in shock but, in all due fairness, my gut told me something was up. Also, I don't want to make a decision based on emotion, I need to think about this logically and take it from there. However, having said that, and I know a lot of you will disagree with me on this, but I am leaning more towards giving it another go. Why in the he!! would I do that you say? Well ....

(1) This is my second marriage and I have invested almost 19 years of my life into it.

(2) We are NOT dealing with the "regular" A-type situation. We are dealing with a much deeper, complex that is psychologically based and I really don't think you can apply all the principles of DB to this scenario

(3) Since my H spoke to her and saw her, the changes in him have been over the top in progress in our R therefore I do tend to believe him when he says "all the emotion associated with that is gone". He has always had a strange way of dealing with emotions and is VERY independent and private and is trying very hard to change that - I have seen an incredible change in him over the last couple of weeks.

(4) I am not denying he lied (once again), I am not denying he deceived me but there is something between us that has changed over the last couple of weeks that I can't explain, pinpoint or put into words - and its a good thing.

I just can't throw in the towel, not yet. I don't say that won't happen down the road but in the meantime, I would appreciate your support in my decision, regardless of your personal views.

I thank you, one and all, once again for helping me get to this point and, hopefully, to continue giving me your support in saving our M.

With tears, I end this post - but they are not tears of pain, they are tears of gratefulness - thank you