I'm sure it is not good for me to be this way, but I am not detaching. I cannot let myself feel like I'm going to give up on this situation until the divorce paperwork is signed.
Are you saying you are having difficulty or unable to detach, or that you refuse? It sounds like a refusal. If that is the case, you do not understand detaching.
You detach from the emotional rollercoaster. He is angry, spewing cycling emotionally, constantly changing his mind...detached, you will not cycle with him or allow his moods and emotions to throw you off center.
Detach from the emotions, not the person. You may feel as I do...from wha tI saw in my early days here I felt (and still feel)that detaching can lead to giving up as an LBS loses caring for her MLCer...And so I say, detach from the emotions, NOT the person.
And if you are Standing and/or don't want a divorce, why would you let yourself feel like you can give up once legal documents are finalized? That shouldn't matter.
