Funny thing about statistics, you can read them 2 ways.

If you know me you will know how hard this is for me to say. I want the best for everyone here. So here it goes.

Statisticly, if I want to be in that smaller than desirable statistical pool of restored marriages, I would be happy for the filing of D that you and others will do. If you give up on your marriage, and relationship, or you spouse never returns, then I have a better chance of restoring MY marriage. I have done everything I can to be in that % of restored marriages, and early signs are good that H could be a returning spouse, before of after D.
12% of D end up remarrying.
40% of separations will not become D.
I will take those odds, thank you very much.

Now for some easy truth. If I fail to restore my marriage, and others here can restore their marriage I will rejoice for them. I will know that I have done what is right and good. I will know I have and will complete my personal legend. I will be happy. I just know myself to know that if I do not take this journey, I will never be able to embrace whatever my future happiness will be.

Thanks for listening. I do see your point. But I am an optimist, and I am going to be happy beyond belief one day.
Holly

Bomb 1/06
D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature.
Divorce final October 31, 2008.
OW looks like bad history. Over.
Still hopeful. Baby steps.
In R with my X.