I agree with Lissett on this one. Divorce is not always the end...my aunt and uncle were divorced in 1982 and never left one another and to this day are still together...remarried at the courthouse the second time around...
A gal I worked with husband flipped out too and they got D and 2 years later they got back together and are still together...
A friend of mine who is a marriage therepist says that 55% of all 1st marriages end in D nowadays...and 85% of SECOND marriages end in divorce...
I believe there is a lot of intolerance in people...like people are disposable..."oh, he had too many flaws or didn't come around when I wanted him to so I D'd him", blah, blah, blah...
What does that tell us??? At the first test of loyalty, we run off b/c we are only loyal to ourselves. that is truly sad. I take my vows very seriously, I do not want a D... I am not going to initiate it...he could be gone for years...but I am not going to file...
I personally believe that many do want to come back...we have to be loving and allow it to happen...I am not saying forgiving and forgetting, I am saying be KIND, be LOVING, be the ROCK...
You must really BELIEVE in it...we do have the power to change this...through prayer and positive thinking...God never abandons us, it is us that abandon Him. We give in to despair. Somedays are hard...we can all attest to that...but I not going down without swinging...
Read "The Secret", you'll understand what I am talking about...
Godspeed his love to you, Valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
