If one wants it to be done and cannot handle it any longer, they will throw in the towel. Then there are those of us who took vows before God for richer for poorer, in sickness and til death do us part. I know there are those who just cannot take it anymore and have to move on.
The MLCer's DO care. I have seen it over and over again. ANd hearing that my H says it kills him everyday that he is not with his kids but that is his choice at the moment.
It is when the MLCer feels they can make that move, when they are confident and comfortable in doing it, they will choose.
I try to imagine myself, doing what my H is doing, shacking up, coming over on weekends, facing my spouse and kids, knowing that my kids know that I am sleeping with another person.......I could not do this as it would kill me due to guilt. This is where I would have to self medicate as well. But deep in his heart, he knows where he really belongs.
I say all in God's perfect timing, not mine.
I commend Lissett's grandfather for coming back, even if it took a long time, he still made the journey back home.
Last edited by steelersfan; 05/26/0705:34 PM.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
