Question for HD women

[MJontheMend]

But you cannot fake drive. It's there or it isn't. I need to suck it up or...not.

Yeah, I used the wrong word. I meant that you could possibly teach him to act more "top" like NOP was saying on your thread. If he was willing to be sexual even though he didn't really feel the drive and he acted top, that might be close enough for rock and roll. If he acted more like he was in control (top)then you might still be turned on even though he wasn't acting like he was out of control horny (hd). Even though my 2bx rarely acted HD, he frequently acted top so we usually did have hot monkey sex when we had it.

I only have top drive for guys that make me really hot. I know when I am really attracted to a guy sexually because I will want to be more dominant with him sometimes.

So you would never, for instance, start rubbing yourself up against your H in bed? This was the "trick" that worked best for me from about 1992-1994 - lol - but it wasn't really a trick because I actually was horny when I did it. This is going to sound like an odd suggestion but maybe you ought to read some high quality gay male erotica in order to make yourself more object-oriented. Of course, you also run the risk that you will just freak your H out by putting out that kind of vibe if his bandwidth is narrow. Really, in my experience, acting top is only going to get you whatever percentage of bottom your H has in extra drive from him and if you push beyond that level you will just make things worse (sigh). It's like when HP's H was saying she should just grab it if she wanted it. From what Gel has written, I think that is what she is dealing with now too.

From what I've read, the average guy prefers some top behavior from a woman about 1/3 of the time. I agree with you that I prefer top behavior from a guy most of the time too. My whole "top my top" comment got blown way out of proportion as far as I'm concerned. I think all I really meant by it was that one kind of sexual encounter that I really like is if I start out acting really top because I'm feeling really horny and the guy flips me before I get off. It just doesn't happen that often because I think most men enjoy the novelty of a woman acting really top too much to want to flip her. However, I believe that someday soon I am going to have a sexual partner to whom I can comfortably say "Do you know what would be really hot? The next time I come up behind you and start rubbing up against your *ss, only let me do it for a few seconds before you pin me down hard." and then add "The reason I would really like it if you would/could do this is that when I'm feeling the urge to rub up against you I am as about as horny as I can get at the beginning of an encounter so a total throwdown would get me off really strong." All I gotta do now is find the guy who is the right combo of HD and GGG in general and for me in particular or maybe I should just go around saying this to all the boys and that's how I'll find the right one. I feel like I'll be doing my part in either case because I will actually say it and not just hope it will happen. That's kind of what I'm suggesting in your sich. Teach your nice Alpha H by actually saying what you want and telling him why you want it, why it turns you on or gets you off. The brain is only the sexiest organ when you hook it to your tongue.