Why do these things happen

[JR2007]

That's horrible you had to go through that man. I'm really sorry. But it's good you've talked about it with people now, it helps create some closure on pain you've been living with for a long time.

I'm sorry your W reacted so negtively to the news. You know what, I went through some traumatic things last year and I really needed my W to be there for me and she just couldn't be, and then I wasn't there for her because I was so focused on me. So, if you get a chance, focus on her needs, nurture her, let her share her emotions with you, and don't interrupt, don't solve, just let her get it out. And then empathize. See what happens.

[789]

The worst part is that it all started at the same time.I probably could of handled one at a time. But you go from finally coming somewhat to terms of abuse, starting rehab, grandfather dying, D asked for, seperation, and this is all in about 3 weeks time. I keep looking up at night and looking for a astroid to strike me, as I think that might be fitting right now.

[JR2007]

No doubt the [censored] likes to pile on!

As Jazz says, keep your chin up.

[789]

Well another day has come and gone, have not seen W in 3 days, I know not many, but I think this is the longest I have gone without seeing her. It was a better day, doing everything possible during it to not think about W or us. Then I get home to an empty place, oh well, online poker time.

[imLIN]

789....I hope the online poker time is just for fun...I don't want to sound like your mother or anything...BUT...when you give up an addiction....including alcohol it is VERY EASY to substitute another addiction...and gambling is VERY COMMON...I know because they warned my H of this...gambling wasn't an issue but it was mentioned...his turned out to be my muscle relaxants! but fortunately he found out quickly that an addiction...especially if you are using to escape isn't a good thing...some people even become addicted to excercise if you can believe that (smirk)....which I think wouldn't be so bad but the doctor said "You would be suprised!"

So just be careful about things you do to "forget" the pain....

Take care and have a warm and joyful day...go watch the ants...you will be suprised...

Lin

[789]

It is only for fun, don't play for money. My sister and I play, and chat thru yahoo while we are playing. Much cheaper than long distance phone calls.

[789]

pokerstars

[789]

Well look me up if you are playing, screen name is scoobytoo2.
You can find me on the hold em tables. Free ones.

[789]

Well W and I spent the last few hours finishing clearing out our house. It sucked. She said words that made me feel very hopeful, but I do not want to read anything into them, or I would get to excited for my own good. Is it a good thing that while doing this we had a few piles, hers, mine, goodwill, garbage, and a pile she started for "us". It was mainly normal everyday stuff but at the same time really no reason for it.

[789]

Well I have stayed up way to late reading threads thru-out this entire site. The main thing I learned is that hope is always possible if I let it happen. Also letting it take it's own course.
Good night.