He would stay here b/c he just took a new job, but I contemplate moving back to my hometown for the support of family and friends. Lately I've contemplated staying here though for the year separation so that we can possibly work together and see if things do get better.
Some comments on this, I live in a foreign country away from all family and friends, but have managed to build a support mechanism, and with the help of this site, many of the regular posters to me live thousands of miles away.
I am a true believer in that you can never go back, only forward. You grow apart from what you once had, your family. I love my brothers and parents dearly, but could never go back to living in each others pockets.
Also the issues will follow you. You cannot run away from them, they will always be with you. That is what an MLCer does, runs away from the issues, but the issues never go away and finally catches up with them.
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By moving away, I feel like that will be a clean cut with little hope for repair.
Another thread to read, would be that of BrandNewDay (BND). Her husband move 3-4000 miles away for 2 years, and they are now reunited. So there is always hope.
My advice in summary: Stay put, do not let him force you to go back Find a local support mechanism Read as much as you can, so that you know what you are dealing with and Detach Detach Detach
