Because your H is such a nice Alpha guy otherwise, I would really like it to be the case that you could teach him to act more HD.
Me too. Beleive me. But I don't know if that is really the issue. I don't want to have to teach a man to be HD. Again, defeats my whole point. So these are my own issues to deal with, not his. He is who he is. A very nice guy who made some mistakes and now wants to be a better H. But you cannot fake drive. It's there or it isn't. I need to suck it up or...not.
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It's very interesting to me that you indicate that you have no object-orientation or basic physical attraction towards your H. As I recall, he was pretty cute in the picture you posted. Perhaps that is an area you could work on. Do you feel like you have any top drive at all?
I have an attraction to him. He is very good looking. It is not a sexual attraction, if that makes any sense. It is "puppy dog" attraction like you stated. He makes me feel loved, not sexual. So in answer to your question, do I have top drive for him? Not really. I only have top drive for guys that make me really hot. I know when I am really attracted to a guy sexually because I will want to be more dominant with him sometimes. I still prefer "bottom", that makes me feel like the guy is more into me, which women tend to like. LFL
