I don't know why I posted on this particular list...I guess b/c I have it in my mind that my husband is suffering from the 'Anytime Mid-Life Crisis' and I thought people would be able to best understand my situation by posting here.
I'm sure it is not good for me to be this way, but I am not detaching. I cannot let myself feel like I'm going to give up on this situation until the divorce paperwork is signed. Which is another thing. We both live in a city about 500 miles from our families and we only have each other here. He would stay here b/c he just took a new job, but I contemplate moving back to my hometown for the support of family and friends. Lately I've contemplated staying here though for the year separation so that we can possibly work together and see if things do get better. By moving away, I feel like that will be a clean cut with little hope for repair.
I have spoken with my sister about this and she is very saddened by this whole situation since it is so very uncharacteristic of my husband. He was such a sensitive guy who has such high beliefs of marriage and religion. He did say that he would not go to a therapist, but he wanted to start to go to church more often. We are making sure to get there tomorrow, so I feel like if he is able to recognize that he needs something to help with these stresses he is feeling, then there is hope. Am I crazy to hang on to little things like this?
