Happy Together at Long Last!!!

[Jen_Jam]

Well ... broke my rule and had an R talk!!!! Don't scream at me

I kept it short, calm and to the point and it was well received. It went something like this:

I stated I was feeling needy and didn't like feeling that way. I asked H if he'd noticed and he hadn't.
I explained I was fearful and waiting for the next bomb but that those feelings weren't his fault and I had to work on that myself.
I asked H if he was comitted to this M and our R, with the caveat that I realised it wasn't going to be sweetness and light every day. He says he is. I believe him.
I then ended the conversation, asked H if he had anything he'd like to say. he said he realised that cuddles were important to me, less so to him, and he said he would try to give me more of them. I thanked him for that and for listening. We agreed slow and easy works best for us.

He's now gone out to the gym and to meet his brother - of course I said I was fine with that because I am. he'll be back in a few hours.

So - me getting myself into a tizz .. oh ACJ I did ask if his stopping smoking might alleviate his LD he says he is hoping it will.

I'm sorry for going off on the deep end ... been reading other posts here and see there are a lot of people in far worse sitches than mine, I feel a little like an ungrateful spoilt brat. So for now I'm quitting the analysing, kicking back and just being ... thank you all for listening to me, Mrs Panic-Wobble!!!!