Evan, There's no way to avoid the pain, nor do you want to. We have to learn that life isn't about always being comfortable. Experiences such as ours is a reminder of that. Use this hardship to grow as a human being.
Being physically separated may be for the best at this time. It will help you to get grounded, and work on DB and other life skills.
You may want to join a support group for the separated. Writing helps as a form of expression. Talking to a therapist is helpful. Going to church, attending a meditation group, or reading religious/spiritual material helps you to work with suffering in your life, and transform it into compassion for others. Having connection to others is important. Avoid isolation for long periods of time.
You'll be surprised at how resilient you are. The initial weeks and months will be hard. There is a grieving process that is unavoidable. It will pass.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
