Thanks for your post Smurf_SMR. I am not ready to give up on my husband though...I have told him that I would go down kicking and screaming b/c this is my marriage. I've backed off from making him have discussion after discussion about it b/c I know that is not helpful anymore.
We are both 29, we've been together for seven years and will be married for three years in July. We do not have any children, but were planning to start trying within the next year. I think this may have also contributed to my husband's stresses b/c he was overwhelmed at thinking about having a child enter into our dynamic.
The strangest part for me is that we get along just as well as we always have - we don't argue with one another and I actually am doing more now than I ever have now that I understand what made my husband unhappy initially. I feel like I've fallen in love with him all over again b/c he is communicating better with me and I can finally understand more of what he likes. I thought this was our main trouble...communication. My husband is so sure that he cannot rely on how things were in the past...he doesn't think that we can successfully repair our communication troubles.
I know that I'm babbling, and for that I apologize. I really just don't have anyone to speak with. My grandmother is going through breast cancer right now, so my mother is encompassed with this great stresser and actually knows nothing of my troubles. I cannot bear to tell her in the wake of what she is dealing with now.
My husband did get a new job and will be starting that next week, so I'm hopeful that it will help him relieve some stress.
