Still Tryin's new thread

[S.T. _I Made It!]

thanks C_M. I wish I had more time to write as thoroughly (sp?) as you do. I'm always jumping from one task to the next, so I halfway rush thru peoples threads. Mainly because I can't keep up with everything that goes on since I'm not on every day. Especially Nikki's! That girl goes thru threads like no other! But she is such an inspiration to all, so I can see why. So many people post on her threads, it's cool. I never had that, but I am definitely grateful for those that do post to mine!


C_M. just remember, that even if the D goes thru, it doesn't have to mean it's over for good. I know a couple people that had gotten D only to get back and remarry years later. I would definitely love to see you and your W get back together before all that, but maybe God has other plans. Only he knows what is really best for you, and if you truely love him, he is allowing this to help you grow, and grow closer to him. He has a wonderful plan for you, and although you can't see it, it is there.

On the other side, your W may need to go thru real hardship before growing.

As you have been doing: the bible says to love our enemies, and it will be like burning coals on their heads. And since at the present, your W is being your enemy, and if you continue to love detachingly- and staying strong as a man and man of God- then this will burn thru her. I think either this will put more hate in her, or she will come to a realization sometime down the road. I say more hate, because deep down I believe she will be angry that you do not give her reasons to D, and that it is really all her, so she may put hatred on you, or already has. I almost think that your W may need to go thru the D before she can get right with herself, and then be able to open up and search out forgiveness, or let her guilt go. does that make any sense? I always think I have good thoughts in my mind, but when I write them down, they don't always come out quite right!

anyways, thank you very much for posting to my thread too, especially when I'm not in "need" right now. But it is wonderful to have a friend supporting you!