Do I go dark or just continue to be kind and supportive? How do I help him deal with the guilt and thinking he is a failure?
Hi glamgirl. Boy, does he ever sound like my friend's X. First off, I have to tell you how brave you're being during this time, and I'd like to tell you what a great job you're doing, trying to support him.
Maybe it would be better for yourself if you went dark for a little bit. Your H will have to deal with his guilt one way or the other...and though it may not be in a manner you approve or in the speed you like, it just can't be rushed.
Don't beat yourself up too much. You're already doing a lot and dealing with this stressful sitch.
Saw a good post on Going Dark that you might want to read about.
