Would you say that, during the times that you had the most trouble getting your men to participate, that you were more sexually frustrated and wanting sex than actually wanting your partner?
As I recall, the one thing that gets me going more than anything else is the sight and sound and feel of a woman that is truly hungry for her partner. Not frustrated or neglected, but excited and eager for every touch and caress and kiss she's anticipating from the man with her.
I also noticed, going back through the threads, that a lot of the women had a hard time "bringing the heat". I wonder if that was an unpleasant effort to summon desire for a man that wasn't really inspiring it, so that the man could then pick up on her sexual vibes and get to work. If he was inspiring lust in her, she'd still be "bringing the heat" and sparking his lust in turn, but it would be an automatic process.
Would y'all say that the "heat" generally starts with the woman, when you get right down to it, and it's a matter of whether she's hungry for him or not? Perhaps that's more the case with older men than younger men?
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
