Husband, I have read so many books, so I forget where the info I'm talking about comes from so bear with me. The book said that affairs worsen with secrecy. If you want to work on your marriage tell your spouse about your feelings for the OP. I think that is what she did. She is taking time to figure out her feelings and it seems like she is working on your marriage. I think this book I got this info was "Hope for the Separated" or "When Your Mate Wants Out". I got both books from Amazon.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
