Thanks for asking I’m doing better today. Everyone’s sitch is different. Some like lostmybfriend have H’s that are not around and don’t want to talk. Some like mcojh W’s just act crazy. Mine she acts like everything is ok as long as we are not intimate and no R talks. I think we are making progress. She mentioned at our one and only C session that she feels she was the one that always took care of business such as making reservations, preparations of stuff and the like. My son mentioned at dinner about a week ago he wanted to go see the Winchester house in Santa Clara. My W said she would like to also. I asked her if she wanted me to make it so and she said yes. So I went one better and made reservations at a hotel so we can go see the Winchester house on one day and the next go to an amusement park. (Paramount’s great America). She seem exited about going to the park looking it up on the web and stuff. She was in her mom’s car yesterday and it broke down. I went to pick her up. She asked if she should call AAA. I asked do you want me too. She said yes and I did. Twice a year I get a big bonus from my company. I usually put it down on bills. My W said I should buy a lap top computer. My W has a degree in computer programming. She went on line picked all of the upgrades and is going to order it for me. She wants me to get it before my son and I leave for our father son week vacation in June. So you can see there are plenty of positives going on. It’s just no talk about what is going on. She is seeing a C. (well I really don’t know but she has seen her at least once). See right here is an example of not trusting her. I will be away for a week next month. The OM lives out of state but I have had this planed for some time. So there was time for them to plan to meet. I have a friend that I have told just a little about my problem to and she said I should just come right out and ask her if they plan on meeting. But I am uncoftertable with this. I want to try to build trust again. We have gone out on 1 “date” It was really nice. I little uncomfortable at first but it was nice. I wrote her a thank you letter with an envelope and paper in her favorte color. I mailed it. I get home first so I saw it in the mail and I put it on the counter with the there mail. I had to take a movie back and when I got home my W was there. I noticed she had gone through the mail and my pink letter was gone. She didn’t say a word about it. She was not acting mad or real happy just ok. I checked all the trash can inside and out for the letter and didn’t see it. (I even looked in he underwear drawer.) I have stopped looking. But now my mind starts working over time. Is she waiting for the right time to say she wants a D or is she waiting for the right time to say she is sorry? I feel she is holding back her feelings but which is it? Hate for me or love? Too much thinking. Even after writing all of this I am still feeling pretty good. Last Saturday we had our 1st date. This Saturday I am going out again but this time with my buddy. I have been going out every Saturday night since this started. I hardly ever went out before this happened but I’m trying to GAL. I am also trying to stay positive around her. I never talk about the OM. I am trying to give them nothing to talk about. I have not looked at the phone log in 3 weeks so I don’t know how much or if they are still talking. My W had a PA. It was with an old MARRIED boy friend she went out with before we got married. One thing she did say during our C session was it would not have gone that far if she didn’t have feeling for him in the past. The funny? Thing is I know this guy. He hurt her really bad emotionally before we got married. I think deep down his hurt is why she has never really opened up to me during our 16 yrs. And now she goes back to him. I feel he is using her for an out of state lay. He’s married.
Ok I vented enough And I still feel good
Agian yoyo Thanks for asking Husband
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