Green: I agree with your ‘Resolved’ instead of my ‘Addressed’ comment. I have never been one that handled communication well! I need to improve my skills along with my boundary setting.
On the plus side, she is looking for a job and has quit asking me to do things for her or her kids. So Nopkins concern with my pocket book is taken care of.
She is complaining that I am withdrawing from her. She made the comment at lunch today (in a semi-joking fashion) that I only touched her when I wanted sex. That is absolutely not true and I told her so. She said that last night was an example…we did not have sex but I went to sleep rather quickly.
I know that this Intimacy issue will show itself very quickly. I view her comments above as precursors as controlling our sex lives. Maybe I am looking to find fault where there is none. Time will tell.
I will say that I have not been overly affectionate lately as I felt this was being needy and clingy.. Sometimes I think this is a game that we are playing ‘Who has the upper hand?
