No it makes us people of integrity, value and good conscience, willing to deal with the hurt and pain to hopefully, selflessly allow our spouses to see the light. Perfect people, perhaps not, but selfless, yes.
I am in a confusing place, myself, how much do I want to give up on? She asks for surprise flower, letters, cards, jewelery etc. When did I ever get a surprise birthday party, even?
Anyway I feel I really need to decide what it is, that I want to receive in this relationship as well. Do I want to forgo my dreams of a perfect marriage, for the comfort of simply being together, and financially stable. Does she want to work her a$$ off for as long as it takes to make this work, and win back my trust?
IS 49 W 47 S 21 D 19 S 16 M 24y Together 31y EA Mar04-May 06 PA Feb06-Jun06 EA May07 Bomb Dec 28 07
Footfalls echo in the memory, down the passage which we did not take, towards the door we never opened Into the rose-garden. T. S. Eliot
