ACj - H is going cold turkey. he's tried gum and patches before and they make him feel worse. I have pointed out there are quit smoking support groups but I can't push him on this one, he hates being pushed. So I've left it to him. he has got the ASH website stop smoking factsheet - he'll do it in his own way.
Nara - I haven't read your sitch (sorry) but on the want not a need thing - yes H def is a want, and if you think about it it's more flattering to be wanted rather than needed. To be needed implies a lack of choice, and no-one wants to be in an R where the other person feels compelled to stay with them when they don't really want to. it's funny how all those great love songs talk about "needing" someone - how wrong they are. Listen out for the lyrics and laugh the was a true DB'er only can!!
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
