she says because "you snore and I can't fall asleep," but I know that's just an excuse for her fear of intimacy and closeness with me.
This may or may not be an excuse to avoid intimacy and closeness with you. In my sitch, my H also snores...if he begins to snore before I fall asleep, I cannot fall asleep either...and damn is that ever frustrating!!! It definitely caused some friction (and not the good kind) between us for awhile...when he'd snore I wanted to just shove him out of bed. He couldn't help the snoring, but it sure grated on my nerves. There's an easy solution to that though, buy her some foam eaplugs! They work absolute wonders and have allowed my H and I to sleep in the same bed much, much more frequently than we used to. Buy the foam, not the plastic ones...the plastic ones hurt if you lay on your side, the foam you don't feel at all.
