Why do you need to talk with him? You can't force someone to talk to you, and if you try to talk to someone who is angry and doesn't want to talk with you it will appear you're pursuing them and they will want less to do with you then ever. They will bolt.
Your husband is angry with you and probably wants to "get back at you." My guess is he knows this is upsetting you and that's why he's doing it. He wants to hurt you back. If you can detach things will get easier. You won't care so much and he won't have this control over you.
I don't think it's good to have your dad or anyone else in the middle.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
