If she does not want to meet them, then she does not truly want to work on this marriage, but keep it as is for whatever reasons she has....
This is true - but you keep focusing on her and her choices. She's not deciding the fate of your marriage, you are. It seems like you are trying to establish blame for you choosing to separate. You have your reasons, own them - you're not forced to do anything, you are choosing to.
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I am filing paperwork for separation. It will be interesting to see how it pans out. She doesn't want to leave the house, and she doesn't want to work on the marriage.
I hope the logistics work out well for you.
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Just her not wanting to work on the marriage and living like we have been is INSANE!!!
Ok, I took issue with this thread title, and I also take issue with this statement. Your choice to label her behavior as insane is a nasty way of trying to make yourself look better by comparison. You don't need to prove your worth - you are worthy. I always think of the statement "when you point your finger at someone there are three pointing back at you" in times like this. You (and everyone on these boards) could be called insane for trying to save their marriages or tolerating treatment that they shouldn't, etc. In fact, the human condition is somewhat insane, so what's the point? I think I would respond differently if your had described your behavior as insane for staying in the ashes of a marriage with a woman who was not obviously working on rebuilding it, yet using you for her personal satisfaction. I would see this differently because it would motivate you rather than judge another and describe why they should be doing something differently. Get my point here?
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
