My wife is falling in love with OM - help.

[WAW in the OC]

My wife of 16 1/2 yrs is also seeing a man 16 yrs younger! In addition she has told me she loves him and I've found numerous e-mails and pictures of them doing fun stuff together. He's only 22 and tells her he wants to spend the rest of his life with her when she has 3 kids 17,11,9. She's 38.You are very lucky your wife is still talking to you. My wife is in the anger stage and won't discuss anything but our kids' schedule and finances with me! You have a golden opportunity to change the tide. Make sure you read the DR and apply the techniques. You have so much more to work with than me. The few times my wife has spoken to me before I read the book were just to tell me that it was over and she didn't want to work on our marriage.
Please save your marriage before she shuts communication down and then you will only have the last resort to use which only prevents more negative situations.