I guess what I'm looking for is a close, working together, attitude. If a couple works together to make their relationship stronger day after day, regardless of challenges, it will move forward. What worries me is that when I see a sit back and watch the paint dry approach in a marriage it becomes to easy to do nothing and then complain about lack of success. To often in this day and age, if only couples would put as much determination into making things work as they do to tearing things apart, this world would be a much stabler, united place.
With that said, I must say that W is starting to put forth good effort into what I believe is the right path. However, it seems that there is still "a foot sticking out the door of the car". Technically in, but prepared to get out at any moment. After taking such an emotional "beating" since the bomb....., it's hard to really believe that W is working toward a true R, or just going through the paces to save face. My hunch says it's for real, but my head says "watch out", just in case. Some of my older DB friends know that their a hidden "ACE" out there on the table, but I don't know if she will play it, or plans on mucking it.
There seems to be a good personality change in W, like she is starting to take things more seriously in life and R, but some of the WAS habits still lurk. Although W did not technically walk, she was very much there.
What do I want.
1-Close R with W again.
2-To be each others #1 again.
3-To feel safe in the R. Not waiting for a shoe to drop or a outside influence to turn things around.
4-To be someone that W deems important and critical in her life, other than the father of her children.
5-For my children to know that M and D are one again.
6-To wake up one morning and hear PS I'm so glad you stood by me and you mean the world to me. You are truly my H and friend.
