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Thanks Kim. You have certainly not spoken out of turn. It's always good to get a fresh viewpoint, and what you said is absolutely true.

I have actually done a lot of work in fixing myself ... a lot was needed, but a ways still to go, I fear. Ha! I continue working on GAL, being a better me, etc. I have my ups and downs, but generally have a PMA, and try and be grateful for something everyday. My H and I have a long way to go, although I think he thinks that everything is okay. I am not obsessive about things anymore (thank goodness, that part in the process is long over), but I think about things, and try and learn from the forum, and books that I read. Sometimes, I just think we need to shake things up a bit, which is what I had hoped would happen with my trip, but you are right ... he has way too much on his mind right now, and I am giving him his space to do what he needs to do.

Thankfully, I am at a place now where I am very happy with myself, and can amuse myself for hours. I also have my S20 and my D14 at home, and we get on so well. They are the cutest, funniest, most entertaining young people, and they keep me going. My D26 also phones me from time to time (she lives in the USA, busy moving from Florida to Illinois, and we live in Western Canada), and it is so lovely to hear from her, and to catch up on the antics of her little family. My D20 lives in the previous city we lived in (where I went on my trip), and I do chat to her sometimes too. She lives a very busy life it seems, which is normal for someone her age, and she is presently expecting a little girl, so she has a lot on her mind.

So! All in all, I had a little disappointment, but I will survive it. Giving my H some space has allowed me to detach again from what he is going through, so I am able to better listen and validate. I hope, anyway.

Take care, y'all, and thanks for posting Kim.