Hi this is my 1st time posting to you and I hope I am not out of line here. From what I have read on this thread it seems you have expectations from your H that he is not living up to. (I know I had them too)Guess what he wont for a long time but by you making some changes it can help speed it up. I think your H needs to see you in a different light. He still sounds interested in you but a few of your traits overshadow the real you. Could you try and always be happy when he rings you and keep any disappointment out of your voice. That way when he rings you it will be a pleasant experience. When he says he cannot make it to see you or hasn't got time to talk tell him that it's O.K. and just to contact you when he is free. I know it is not what you want to do but it will get him thinking.

When you go out don't discuss the same issues, even better for awhile don't discuss the two of you on a relationship level. Talk about what you have both been up to, his law cases, mutual friends, news etc anything that is not about your R.

Next get out and do some things you want to do. Visit friends, go out with friends fill up your time with other interests and you will be surprised at how it keeps your focus of H for awhile.
This is GALing and when they see you enjoying yourself and being happy with your life and yourself they truly see you differently and watch the dynamics change then.

If he doesn't want to have sex or doesn't think it is right tell him that's fine that you agree and that you have alot more to work on before sharing that kind of moment.

I know you may not believe in any of this stuff that I am telling you but I have done it all the wrong way over the last 2 years and I tell you nothing really changed until I truly starting DBing. I started trying what I had read and what the good people here had told me and guess what it started to work.

It took alot from me and alot of biting my tongue and alot of pretending to be happy and pretending to be busy as well but eventually it became reality and I wasnt pretending anymore and I was interested in my own happiness and guess what H became more interested as well.

Sorry if I am off the mark but this is what I have learned and I am just trying to give you another avenue.....Good Luck...