My H left 3 months ago (claims their is no OW), he said he just wasn't happy, wasn't sure he wanted to be married and pointed out everything I had done wrong since we have been married. Things are getting a little better now. We have had several sessions with a MC and we are both getting IC. My H says he want to take baby steps, but I am struggling with what those steps are. On top of that, even though he claims there is no OW, I have difficulty trusting him. He isn't ready to come home yet, but when or if he does, I know I am going to need a lot of reassurrance from him...but on the flip-side of that, it might be best for our M if I just try to let go and have faith...what do you do????
UpsideDown it is hard isn't it. You have no proof there is an OW so I wouldn't focus on it too much at the moment. This will not help my H said the same thing and there was BUT I have seen others have their H's say this and there wasn't so each case is to be taken on its own merit. In yours I would say try not to focus on that until you have some real proof that there is. Work on your communication with your H for starters and try and act AS IF so he see's that you are such a good person and hopefully he will realise that he misses you. Apply good DBing and again act AS IF b/c it does work in them looking at you differently but it is something that takes a long time, alot of practise and alot of mistakes before it becomes your way of life. When it does things really do seem to change. I hope that helps a bit and hold on to the fact that he is at least prepared to work on it so that is hope on it's own.....
