I think we're piecing but it's scary

[BeingMe]

Hi Kim. I don't remember you, but I have been on the forum for about 3 years now ... in piecing for about 2 years. All I can say is that piecing is so much harder than working on winning your spouse back. There are so many issues one has to deal with, like trust. I think that if someone, like our H's, have betrayed that trust, then they should be completely transparent in everything, including their damn cell phones. If they want us to trust them again, that is. The choice is theirs, I feel. I found the hardest thing is when my H stepped over the boundaries I put in place, and ignored what I wanted if we got back. But, I am working on it, and I hope he is too.

Anyway, good luck with piecing your M. It's hard work, but worth it, I think, in the long run. The only advice I can give, is to be clear on your needs and expectations, but lighten up too. Try and have fun together, and enjoy each other's company without too much heavy R stuff.

Take care.