Ok, even with all the small positives going on, my situation is heading towards a seperation. I found out today that my wife called and talked to a realtor in the area about buying a house. I even have seen the house she wants.

Now. I understand why she would want to buy a new house, instead of moving into a rental. But after talking to my lawyer it was made clear that I should not agree to her buying a new house now. Ok, so without me signing she wouldn't be able to get a mortgage, but she knows that we could afford for her to buy a new house.

I obvoiusly don't want her buying a new place right now, but it's in her head as part of the fantasy life she is going to start living once we seperate. By her not buying a new house, she will blame her continued unhappyness on me since she will think her life won't feel complete until she can move on (moving on means the picture she has in her head).

Anyways, since we are not divorced I would own half, and would need to sign papers for her to buy a new house. And if she wants a divorce it will take a minimum of 11-12 months for it to be final, unless we go through mediation. Which is what she wants.

Even being cooperative and going through mediation, this process would take at least 4-6 months.

So i'm not sure how to handle the conversation when she finally approaches me about it. How do i listen, validate, etc, when we are obviously about to disagree with very little compromise.
What should I say?

I hate this. I just realize how long this is going to take if she moves out. She is going to be "happy" filling her life with buying furniture, decorating, painting, spending time with OM. Only after all the newness is done and she realizes the OM has his own set of problems might she find space for me again, who knows how long that might take.

Ignore my bad attitude, I'll try to get my hope back up, Patience right, little steps.

I could really use some help with the upcoming conversation though. Any ideas? How do i tell her i'm against the idea and defend it. Is there any compromises you see?